Wonders of Old Friendships

I cannot remember the last time i spent two hours and a half on the phone talking to anyone. not even ami. usually, with ami, the conversations are short, five minute conversations that involve a little talk about how the day is going and what we are doing at the moment. and we do that anywhere between 15 and 20 times a day. i guess after people get married, that number dwindles down significantly. my excuse, i am still young and courting...if they still use that word! anyway, i spoke with my high school friend today. i've known him for 12 years now and we've been friends for about 10 out of those 12 years. really, it is a friendship that will last well into our lives. i can see that. since he moved to the US, i havent really spoken to him on the phone but today i was looking through my phone. i wanted to talk to someone who had known me for a long time but who wasn't related to me or someone other than ami. there are three people. two girls and him. ended up calling him because he was the only one i knew would be awake at 11:30.
I got off the phone sometime after two. it was a long talk and a much needed one. when i began the conversation, i was a little sad. i hung up feeling as if i were a desert traveller who was just given gatorade! i felt that we had drifted but when we spoke tonight, we spoke of things we never told each other when we lived in trinidad. we spoke of our childhoods and we remembered some of the things we did when we went to school. we discussed a photograph we had taken, one with him, my other friend and me, and how we were such geeks....we had a really good laugh. in the photograph, we are doing bunny ears over the girl's head but he is so tall that his entire hand showed up over her head and my fingers didn't reach over her head in time so i came out making the peace sign in the pic. it was hilarious. back then i used to wear a headband and my big forehead was really prominent too. he told me that he showed that picture to a friend and his friend could not stop laughing. tonight i could not stop laughing. i realized that even when you are in a relationship, you tend to neglect your closest friends while making the new interest closer to you. eventually, the new interest will know you best but it is ever so important to remember these old friends. they are the ones who knew you before. they will love you for everything and the only bonds are the bonds of friendship. there is no limit on friendship and what you can talk about with a good friend. that is what i needed. we talked about everything possible. he even helped me see eye to eye with the little problems i have with ami. see, a real friend will never leave you no matter how many phonecalls you fail to return or make, for that matter, but an acquaintance will leave. i guess i have a few real friends. i count my blessings. there are many people who have none.
with an old friend, a friend you meet in your early years, you have the opportunity to watch each other grow up mentally and physically. it is a really fun thing to do when you think back of the things you did, the games you played, when you used to hold each other's hands and walk around the school and no one thought anything of it. or as with the guy, how much fun things we did and skipping school, going to after school lessons, going to the movies, joking around, etc. in the process of looking at the "then" to the "now," we cannot help but realize that we have grown up also!